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Growing Great Girls. This workshop is a REPEAT of this morning’s session. “You Can’t Paint the Walls Pink and Call it a Girls Program”. Girls Psychology - Carol Gilligan. Girls experience a psychic split They need to connect the inner and outer Women socialized to be “self-less”.
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This workshop is a REPEAT • of this morning’s session.
“You Can’t Paint the Walls Pink and Call it a Girls Program”
Girls Psychology - Carol Gilligan • Girls experience a psychic split • They need to connect the inner and outer • Women socialized to be “self-less”
Girls Psychology • Girls need to silence the false feminine voice and speak for themselves- sacrifice of self • Boys a process of separation - Soldiers • Girls a process of dissociation • Premium on physical appearance and relationship
Speaking is relational connected to being heard – resonance • Girls have difficulty hearing their voice • Girls often use voice to cover instead of convey
We experience the world differently • Gender matters • Intersections • Dynamics of Oppression – global dynamics – objectification of women • Polygamy case in Texas • Reach potential
Gender Responsive Services • Designed to meet the unique needs of girls and takes into account female development and the female perspective • Celebrates Girlhood • Helps her find her voice • Focuses on gender identity • Builds her capacity and expands competency • Leads to a process of self-discovery, self expression • Holistic, strength-based, individualized and comprehensive • Reach potential
Holistic Approach • Physical • Sexual • Emotional • Relational • Intellectual • Spiritual
Best Practices • Gender and Trauma • Responsive Services
“Herstory” Context & Content of experiences Identify the root causes vs. Symptoms Triggers and self-soothers Alignment - Referral - Diagnosis
Stages of Trauma Recovery • 1.Safety Tense: Present (potential) • Across all domains 2. Remembrance and Mourning Tense: Past (pathology) • Giving a voice to the unspeakable 3. Reconnection to Ordinary Life Tense: Future • Healing occurs in the context of relationships Judith Herman, M.D., “Trauma and Recovery”
Physical Domain • Developmentally: Body is changing, nutrition, health issues, sleep disruption, self-injury, self-loathing • Strategies: Restore natural rhythms: eating, sleeping, exercising • Program Ideas: Teach them about their bodies, cycles, access to health care, physical fitness
Sexual Domain • Developmentally: Sexual development and identity, acting out, pregnancy and STD prevention • Strategies: Need education about their bodies • Program Ideas: Connect to a safe place, clinically address sexual trauma
Symptoms secondary to sexual trauma • Risk-taking behavior • Sexual problems / dysfunction • Sexual activity triggers memory of trauma • Feelings of intolerable coercion during sexual activity • Compulsive sexual behavior • Significantly increased risk for rape, sexual harassment, battery • Confusion with Sexual Orientation
Statistics • 10% of 12 year olds, 40% of 16 year olds and 80 % of 19 year olds have had sex • Among girls who had sex before age 13, 22% reported that first sexual experience was non-voluntary and an additional 49% categorized it as unwanted • 30% of lesbian, gay, and bisexual adolescents attempt suicide
Many teens who have been sexually active wish they would have waited longer
Statistics • 88% of births by teen women are unintended • 34% of young women become pregnant at least once prior to age 20 • About half of teens say they want more information about sexual health from their health care providers
Sexual Domain Practices • Use materials / language that honors all sexual orientations • Use materials that assist girls in understanding their sexuality and creating / discovering guidelines for safe sexual activity • A picture of sexual health for girls • Offer guidelines for healthy sexual activity • Teach them to listen to themselves and their bodies
Emotional Domain • Developmentally: Resilient, negative, manipulative, co-occurring disorders, history of trauma, self-medication • Strategies: Identify triggers and self-soothers, build emotional knowledge, increase protective factors • Program Ideas: Individual, group, family therapy, gender identity life skills curriculum
Intellectual Domain • Developmentally: Difficulty in school • Strategies: Education is empowering, young people need a voice in the design and evaluation of the program • Program Ideas: Individualize educational plans, journal writing, practical applications, youth development model, non-stereotyped career exploration
Relational Domain • Developmentally: Contextual framework, loss of permanency, multiple family problems • Strategies: Creating Safe space • Program Ideas: Address relational aggression, family system approach
Spiritual Domain • Developmentally: Encourage them think about how she is connected to something larger • Strategies: Foster balance of mind, body, & spirit • Program Ideas: Art as a pathway to spiritual health, healing, giving of time and talents, teach spiritual tools, story telling
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder • It’s not the Drama... • It’s the Trauma! • Screen for both Exposure and Symptoms of Trauma • -issues of historical trauma
Complex Trauma • CT exposure refers to the child’s experiences of multiple traumatic events that occur within the care giving system-the social environment that is supposed to be the sources of safety and stability in their life.
Complex Trauma & Diagnostic Issues • The current psychiatric diagnostic classification system does not have an adequate category to capture the full range of difficulties that traumatized children experience • Although PTSD diagnosis is often used, it rarely captures the extent of the developmental impact of multiple and chronic traumatic exposure
Complex Trauma • Self-regulatory, attachment anxiety, affective disorders in infancy and childhood • Addictions, aggression, social helplessness, eating disorders • Dissociative, somatoform, cardiovascular, metabolic, immunological disorders • Sexual disorders in adolescence & adulthood • Vacillating: Victim, Victimizer, Re-enactor, Rescuer
Do No Harm • Elimination of Protocols that re-traumatize • Forced disrobement, body cavity searches, solitary confinement, body wraps, institutionalized abuse, etc.
You say one for the treble two for the time • Come on y'all let's rock this • You say one for the treble two for the time • Come on
Speech is my hammer bang the world into shapeNow let it fall... • My restlessness is my nemesisIt's hard to really chill and sit stillCommitted to page I write a rhymeSometimes won't finish for daysScrutinize my literature from the large to the miniatureI mathematically add-minister
Subtract the wackSelector, wheel it back, I'm feeling thatFrom the core to the perimeter black,You know the mottoStay fluid even in staccato
(Mos Def) Full blooded, full throttleBreathe deep inside the trunk hollowThere's the hum, young man where you fromBrooklyn number oneNative son, speaking in the native tongueI got my eyes on tomorrow (there it is)While you still try to follow where it is • I'm on the Ave where it lives and dies
Violently, silentlyShine so vibrantly that eyes squint to catch a glimpseEmbrace the bass with my dark ink fingertipsUsed to speak the king's EnglishBut caught a rash on my lipsSo now my chat just like dis
Long range from the base-line Move like an apparitionFloat to the ground with ammunition Move from the gate, voice cued on your tapePutting food on your plateMany crews can relate
Who choosing your fate We went from picking cottonTo chain gang line choppingTo Be-BoppingTo Hip-HoppingBlues people got the blue chip stock option
Invisible man, got the whole world watching(where ya at) High, low, east, west,All over your mapI'm getting big props, with this thing called hip hopWhere you can either get paid or get shotWhen your product in stockThe fair-weather friends flockWhen your chart position dropThen the phone calls....
Chill for a minuteLet's see who else topsSnatch your shelf spotDon't gas yourself ockThe industry just a better built cell blockA long way from the shell topsAnd the bells that L rocked (rock, rock, rock, rock)
Hip Hop is prosecution evidenceThe out of court settlementAd space for liquorSick without benefits Luxury tenements choking the skylineIt's low life getting tree-top high
Here there's a back water remedyBitter intent to memoryA class E felonyFacing the death penalty • Stimulant and sedative, original repetitiveViolently competitive, a school unaccredited
The break beats you get broken withon time and inappropriateHip Hop went from selling crack to smoking itMedicine for lonelinessRemind me of Thelonius and DizzyPropers to B-Boys getting busyThe war-time snap shotThe working man's jack-pot
A two dollar snack boxSold beneath the crack spotOlympic sponsor of the black glockGold medalist in the back shotFrom the sovereign state of the have-notsWhere farmers have trouble with cash crops
It's all city like phase twoHip Hop will simply amaze youCraze you, pay youDo whatever you say doBut black, it can't save you.
Core Values of Growing Great GirlsLife Skills Curriculum • Protect • Respect • Connect
Protect • We will protect ourselves and others by creating and nurturing powerful boundaries across the six developmental domains. We will keep our eyes open and fearlessly care for the physical, sexual, emotional, relational, intellectual and spiritual domains with a priority on safety. We will care for one another with compassion, and bold forgiveness.
Respect • We will respect ourselves and others by honoring our individual wisdom and dignity. We will create a safe haven built on trust and mutual concern where we can open our hearts, listen to one another’s story, and be heard. We will believe in our unique potential, help each other stand, and see that each one of us grows stronger.
Connect • We come together in a spirit of gratitude to connect with ourselves and each another, creating bridges that unite us. We will recognize the needs in our community, reach out, and act. We will use our voices to call out to one another and confidently move into the future together.
Wild Geese • by Mary Oliver
you do not have to be good. • you do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert repenting. • you only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves.