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AUTHENTIC LEADERSHIP. CHOICE OF TOPIC PASSION FOR EXCELLENCE INTRODUCE AM AND HER DIFFERENT ROLES MOTHER OF 3 WIFE SISTER AUNT GRANDMOTHER BUSINESSWOMAN: M&A AND BWA. AUTHENTIC LEADERSHIP. DEFINITION AUTHENTIC: Known to be true or genuine. Reliable, trustworthy
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AUTHENTIC LEADERSHIP • CHOICE OF TOPIC • PASSION FOR EXCELLENCE • INTRODUCE AM AND HER DIFFERENT ROLES • MOTHER OF 3 • WIFE • SISTER • AUNT • GRANDMOTHER • BUSINESSWOMAN: M&A AND BWA
AUTHENTIC LEADERSHIP • DEFINITION • AUTHENTIC: Known to be true or genuine. • Reliable, trustworthy • FUNCTIONS OF LEADERSHIP (Dr Johnny Matshabaphala) • Caring • Direction • Corrective action • Motivation or inspiration • Getting the best out of others • Concerned with the future • Brand development and maintenance • WHAT WOMEN DO EVERYDAY!! • LIVE OUT YOUR TRUE POTENTIAL – THAT IS AUTHENTIC LEADERSHIP
PERSONAL PHILOSOPHY OF AUTHENTIC LEADERS • Live in accordance with timeless principles, universal principles that bring joy, peace of mind and an enhanced feeling of worth • Emotional intelligence: What one does when provoked – paralyse your enemies with love • Be aware of feelings and act to change them • Take control of your own life • Be your own brand • Immortalise your life
ORGANIZATIONAL PHILOSOPHY • Competence for working with others • Team development – similar to family development • Coaching – get the best out of others • Motivating • Correcting • Mentoring
AUTHENTIC LEADERS AND CONTINUOUS LEARNING • CONSTANTLY ASK YOURSELF • What is being said? • What does it mean to me? • How can I use this to be better? • Make informed choices and and decisions • Use every available opportunity to influence and be influenced by others • CONTINUOUS SELF-EMPOWERMENT: “to have a sense of strength and personal control within …. Taking full responsibility for your life and no longer blaming others, or circumstances for your situation.” (Dr Linda Friedman – SELF)
PERSONAL EFECTIVENESS • HOW DO WE BECOME AUTHENTIC LEADERS? • We need to constantly re-examine our effectiveness on a personal and professional basis to see how it can be enhanced • We need to eliminate self-defeating behaviour in all areas of our lives – at home and at work • The best way to improve our organizations is to improve ourselves • The best way to empower our organizations is to empower ourselves
AUTHENTIC LEADERS AND THE POWER OF INDEPENDENT WILL • Independent will makes effective self-management possible • This is measured by our personal integrity • The quality of being honest and morally upright • Our ability to make and keep commitments to ourselves, to “walk the talk” • It is honour with self which leads to honour with others
ACHIEVING PERSONAL SUCCESS • Excellence must be a way of life • Batho pele: Service delivery in whatever sphere we operate in • Make a commitment to brighten the corner where you are • I shall pass this way but once – make a difference • Women’s role in transformation is critical – women who marched to the Union Buildings in protest during the very dark days of apartheid • Gifts and callings are given to us according to our abilities • Immortalise your name – leave a legacy
7 HABITS OF AUTHENTIC LEADERS • Dr Stephen R Covey • Recognized as one of Time magazines 25 most influential Americans • His book “Seven Habits of Highly Effective People” sold 15 million copies • Attended first course in 1996 and have applied his principles since then
HABIT 1 • BE PRO ACTIVE • I take responsibility for my attitude and actions • I am a product of my values and decisions • I am not a victim of my moods and circumstances • In every situation I have the opportunity to choose how I will respond • I have a response-ability to make things happen
HABIT 1 (Cont.) • Lord, grant me the serenity • To accept the things I cannot change • The courage to change the things I can • And the wisdom to know the difference
HABIT 2 • BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND • What is the centre of my life – spouse, family, possessions, work, money, church, sport, friends, etc • Do these centres give me a sense of self-worth all the time • Do I frequently put aside family, etc, assuming that everyone will understand that earning money comes first
HABIT 2 (Cont.) • At the end of my life, what do I want to have accomplished • Write a personal mission statement
My Personal Mission StatementWritten in March 1996“To Live, to Love, to Leave a Legacy” • To live in harmony with all mankind • To influence those around me in a positive way • To appreciate life exactly as it is • To build my Christian values to the fullest • To be a positive role model to younger people • To lift myself when I fall and continue on life’s journey • To appreciate the good that is inherent in all God’s children • To express my feelings in a positive and constructive way • To use very opportunity to utilise my talents and abilities • To curb my tongue when something sharp is pushing to escape from it • To always remember where I came from by giving a helping hand to those who are less fortunate than I am • To be a pleasant and happy old person • To die peacefully knowing that my being in this world has made a little difference to someone’s life – then I will lived, loved and left a legacy ANGIE MAKWETLA
HABIT 2 (Cont.) • We need to identify our values and goals – if you don’t know where you are going, you cannot make informed decisions • Identify the different roles in your life and write one or two goals for each role • What do you want from life • What do you value • What are your gifts and talents
HABIT 2 (Cont.) • Work on your goals each day • Accept that you cannot achieve your goals in every role every day or every week • Prioritise • Be the change that you want • Be the leader that you want
HABIT 3 • PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST • Having decided what is important in my life, I make sure that those people and things are not sidelined by what seems urgent, or by other people’s agendas • We reap what we sow • Cannot sow potatoes and reap tomatoes • There are things that are urgent, but not important
HABIT 3 (Cont.) • Some things are important but not urgent • That is why goals are important to help us identify what is important in our lives • Important things are those that contribute to our mission, our values, our goals • They require us to be pro-active, to plan ahead and be ready to seize opportunities • Through doing them consistently we will produce desired results
HABIT 3 (Cont.) • If we keep doing what we are doing, we will keep getting what we are getting • Effective personal management means • Dealing with things that are important but not urgent • Eg, building relationships, writing a personal mission statement, doing long term planning, sharpening the saw (reading, going to gym, etc) • Long term maintenance • These are all things that we know we need to do, but seldom get around to doing, because they are not urgent
HABIT 4 • THINK WIN WIN • I learn to cooperate with others in a way that builds trust, ensures our mutual benefit, success and effectiveness, and allows everyone to be a winner • What makes us not to acknowledge the potential in others and affirm their unique gifts? • What makes us not to affirm others unique gifts, encourage their individual potential and to want the best for them? • What makes us not be able to love unconditionally?
HABIT 4 (Cont.) • Is it an insecurity in ourselves which prevents us from cooperating with others, from being prepared to combine our talents and share the credit for the greater benefit of all? • Win win is a way of thinking that regards relationships as more important than issues • Most of life is not a competition • We don’t have to live each day competing with our spouse, our children, our colleagues, our neighbours or our friends
HABIT 4 (Cont.) • “Who is winning in your marriage” is a ridiculous question • If both people in a relationship are not winning, then both are losing • As a pro active person, you can choose your responses and rise above your win/lose conditioning • Consider ongoing relationships and the building of trust as more important than issues • Stay in communication and seek a better way, a more generous way • Replace meanness with generosity of spirit
HABIT 5 • SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND, THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD • I learn to listen, with genuine intent to understand what matters to the other person, before expecting him or her to listen to me
HABIT 5 (Cont.) • When we are truly interested in what another person is saying, 3 important things happen • We give them a sense of self-worth • Trust is built up • We can decide what to do on the basis of knowledge rather than assumption or ignorance
HABIT 5 (Cont.) • WHAT PREVENTS US FROM LISTENING WITH EMPATHY? • Desire to be appreciated for offering a wise solution • Impatience • Need to defend my position • Feeling of superiority • Assume that I know what you are going to say • Been there, done that – let me tell you about me • Thinking of my reply
Habit 5 (Cont.) • Seek first to understand is a correct principle • It is practiced by effective doctors, lawyers, executives, managers, parents, students and many others whose success depends on first understanding symptoms, instructions, etc • Once you have proved that you understand the other person in depth, he or she will be more willing to listen to you • When both parties understand both perspectives, we find ourselves on the same side looking for solutions together
HABIT 5(Cont.) • Lord make me an instrument of your peace • Where there is hatred, let me sow love • Where there is injury, pardon • Where there is discord, union • Where there is doubt, faith • Where there is darkness, light • Where there is sadness, joy • Lord, grant that we may not so much seek • To be consoled as to console • To be understood as to understand • To be loved as to love • For it is in giving that we receive • It is in pardoning that we are pardoned • And it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.
HABIT 6 • SYNERGISE • I learn that by working together we can achieve far more than either one of us could achieve on our own • 1 + 1 = 3 or more • The combined actions of a group of bodily organs • Each part of our bodies fulfils a particular function • Our health and well being depends on all the parts combining in their different strengths and weaknesses • Consider the peaceful transition of SA to a democracy – it is called a miracle • Synergy is the essence of miracles
HABIT 6 (Cont.) • Through mutual cooperation and teamwork we can accomplish what would otherwise be impossible • Create shared mission statements • Within my circle of influence I will share the responsibility for the economic well-being and quality of life for everyone • By example, create a culture of learning and productivity; accountability and the effective use of resources; develop high trust levels and synergy
HABIT 7 • SHARPEN THE SAW • SPIRITUAL GROWTH • Pray • Listen • Keep silent • Read the bible and other spiritual books • Dream dreams and envision • Give thanks
HABIT 7 (Cont.) • PHYSICAL HEALTH • Balanced diet • Exercise • Get sufficient sleep and rest • MENTAL ALERTNESS • Continue learning • Read • Write • Think
HABIT 7 (Cont.) • RELATIONSHIPS – EMOTIONAL DEPOSITS • Keep promises • Honour commitments • Apologise • Be loyal • Be kind and caring • Be generous • Give time and credit
CONCLUSION • We are responsible for our own destiny • Take responsibility for your own success • Empower those below you • Live, love, leave a legacy • BECOME AN AUTHENTIC LEADER • THANK YOU