Proverbs on Parenting • Book of Proverbs provides: • Five crucial areas in raising sons • Three character contrasts helpful in raising daughters
Key Questions • How can we help our sons deal with temptation? • How can we help our children wisely spend money? • What are the clues that our child will turn into a foolish person? • What can we do to help prevent our daughter from being a nagging wife?
Five Crucial Areas • Christian Character • Authority and instruction • Temptation • Money • Hard work
Christian Character • Proverbs 1:10-16 • Need to teach our children to stand alone. • Proverbs 13:20 – your son will become like the boys he plays with. • Our children must stand alone in the midst of foolish error.
Christian Character • Practical suggestions: • Teach him how to choose his friends. • Teach him to say no. • Teach him the consequences of foolish behavior (Hebrews 11:25).
Authority and instruction • Proverbs 3:11-12 • A father must instruct his son in how to be sensitive to the Lord’s instruction and reproof.
Authority and instruction • Practical suggestions: • Teach him to listen to counsel. • Teach him to respect your authority. • Teach him to respect other’s authority.
Temptation • Proverbs 5:1-5 • Sex (Proverbs 6:20-24) – teach him to resist sexual temptation. • Alcohol (Proverbs 23:19-21) – resist temptation by strong drink, drugs.
Temptation • Practical suggestions: • Teach him the value of chastity. • Teach him the dangers of promiscuity. • Teach him to be temperate and self-controlled.
Money • Proverbs 3:9-10 • Many of the Proverbs focus on how to earn money, give money, spend money, and save money. • Proverbs 22:7-9 – focus on money.
Money • Practical suggestions: • Teach him to value money by working for it. • Teach him to manage money by giving him an allowance which he must use to pay for his expenses.
Hard Work • Proverbs 10:4-5 • Children need to learn the value of hard work. • His friends will often make it seem like work is for ignorant people (Prov.13:4)
Hard Work • Practical suggestions: • Teach him the benefits of hard work. • Teach him to work for special projects.
Three Contrasts • Foolish or wise • Contentious or gracious • Sensuous or virtuous
Foolish or wise • Proverbs 14:1 • Foolish means “dull, thick, sluggish.” • Foolish woman is thick and dull toward the things of God. • She is bent on destruction (tears down her home with her own hands).
A Foolish Daughter? • First clue: Proverbs 9:13, 17 – boisterous, what she says to her friends (makes mockery of sin). • Second clue: Proverbs 14:1 – quarrelsome, bursts of rage. • Contrast with Proverbs 31.
Contentious or gracious • Proverbs 19:13 • Funny and pathetic at the same time. • Contentious means “given to strife, easily angered.” • Picks a fight just for the love of nagging.
A Contentious Daughter? • First: Her assertive self-will was never broken. Never learned submission. • Second: A product of a contentious mother. Life begets life. • Contrast with Proverbs 11:6.
Sensuous or virtuous • Proverbs 2:16 • Strange – immoral, promiscuous. • First clue: given to verbal flattery, speaks with words that entice. • Second clue: runs with older girls. • Third clue: the way she dresses. • Contrast with Proverbs 12:4.