Exploring the Nice Guy Stereotype in Dating: Insights from University Women
This study by Herold and Milhausen (1999) investigates university women's perceptions of "nice guys" versus "bad boys" in terms of dating preferences and sexual success. Through vignettes of a nice male character and a bad boy counterpart, the research explores women's sociosexual strategies and their dating behavior. The findings reveal a discrepancy between women's stated preferences for nice guys and their actual attraction to bad boys, especially among those seeking short-term relationships. This research sheds light on the cultural implications of the nice guy stereotype.
Exploring the Nice Guy Stereotype in Dating: Insights from University Women
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Do Nice Guys Finish Last? Elise Furukawa, Marissa Diehl, and Jordan Heuser
How to Spot a Nice Guy • Herold, E. S., & Milhausen, R. R. (1999). Dating preferences of university women: An analysis of the nice guy stereotype. Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 25, 333-343. doi: 10.1080/00926239908404010
Our Study • Dating Preferences of University Women: An Analysis of the Nice Guy Stereotype • By Herold and Milhausen (1999) • Investigated women’s perceptions of nice guys, and their sexual success compared to bad boys • Herold, E. S., & Milhausen, R. R. (1999). Dating preferences of university women: An analysis of the nice guy stereotype. Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 25, 333-343. doi: 10.1080/00926239908404010
Definition of Nice Guy/Bad Boy • Dichotomous • Nice guys were either losers or good guys • Losers were boring, inexperienced, weak, and nerdy • Good guys were polite, had high standards, and are less physically attractive • Bad boys were one of four categories: rebel, macho, fun, and sexy guy • Herold, E. S., & Milhausen, R. R. (1999). Dating preferences of university women: An analysis of the nice guy stereotype. Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 25, 333-343. doi: 10.1080/00926239908404010 • Herold, E. S., & Milhausen, R. R. (1999). Dating preferences of university women: An analysis of the nice guy stereotype. Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 25, 333-343. doi: 10.1080/00926239908404010
Methods • Sample size of 165 female undergrads • Wanted to investigate the sexual success of nice guys • Vignettes about nice John and bad boy Mike • Questionnaire was given with 3 measures • Sexual importance • Maximum acceptable level of partner’s sexual experience • Women’s perceptions of nice guys • Hypothesized that sexually conservative women were morel likely to date nice guys • Herold, E. S., & Milhausen, R. R. (1999). Dating preferences of university women: An analysis of the nice guy stereotype. Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 25, 333-343. doi: 10.1080/00926239908404010
Results • Women using a restricted sociosexual strategy (sexually conservative) are more likely to date nice guys • Want mates who will provide parental investment • Women using an unrestricted sociosexual strategy (promiscuous) are more likely to date bad boys • Want mates who are physically attractive, not looking for long term commitment • Herold, E. S., & Milhausen, R. R. (1999). Dating preferences of university women: An analysis of the nice guy stereotype. Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 25, 333-343. doi: 10.1080/00926239908404010
Results Continued • 54% of the women chose nice John from the vignettes • But, 56% of the women said they knew other women who said they wanted to date nice guys, but ended up with bad boys instead • By the measure about partner’s maximum acceptable number of sex partners • This is evidence for the nice guy stereotype that is present in the media and in our culture • Herold, E. S., & Milhausen, R. R. (1999). Dating preferences of university women: An analysis of the nice guy stereotype. Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 25, 333-343. doi: 10.1080/00926239908404010
Discussion • Discrepancy between what women say they want and what they actually do • Women say they want to date nice guys, but prefer bad boys instead • Bad boys are successful with more promiscuous women • If the woman is looking for a short term, casual relationship, she will be more likely to date bad boys • Herold, E. S., & Milhausen, R. R. (1999). Dating preferences of university women: An analysis of the nice guy stereotype. Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 25, 333-343. doi: 10.1080/00926239908404010 • Herold, E. S., & Milhausen, R. R. (1999). Dating preferences of university women: An analysis of the nice guy stereotype. Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 25, 333-343. doi: 10.1080/00926239908404010