Marriage in Afghanistan By: Jade Schilling 2nd Block
Customs and Traditions • Wedding lasts from around 6:00pm-11:00pm • Guests sit at tables • Bride’s guests on right side • Groom’s guests on left side • Throne-like chairs in front for couple • Arranged marriage • Ceremony is sometimes the first time the bride and groom meet http://blogdavinciflorist.blogspot.com/2010/04/international-engagement-party-at.html http://www.kwintessential.co.uk/articles/afghanistan/Afghan-Wedding-Traditions/4909
Spouse criteria • For bride: • Age (can’t marry until 16) • Physical appearance • Character • Family background • For groom: • Age • Physical appearance • Education • Ability to support wife • Reputation • Character • Family background **can marry first cousin, if there is a suitable one** http://www.muslim-marriage-guide.com/afghan-marriage-traditions.html
Engagement • First, letter is sent from male’s parents to a member of the female’s family • (to be)Groom’s father and elders go to (to be) bride’s house • They bring gifts for to-be-bride • Groom’s father (or respected man from groom side) tells of their purpose and demand • Elder man from bride’s side receives the demand http://awwproject.org/2010/05/a-family-matter-part-i/ http://www.onislam.net/english/culture-and-entertainment/traditions/411646-afghan-muslim-wedding.html
Before the Wedding • Amount of time between the engagement and the wedding ceremony depends on financial ability of groom’s family • Groom (or groom’s family) provides: • House • Dowry (wedding gifts/payment) • Expenses of wedding ceremony • Gifts for bride http://www.onislam.net/english/culture-and-entertainment/traditions/411646-afghan-muslim-wedding.html
Before the Wedding Bride’s House Groom’s House • Henna • First put on bride-to-be (by groom) • Groom then leaves • Henna is then put on the rest of the girls who are not married • Lunch • kind of like the equivalent of a rehearsal dinner in America • Large group of people • Many gifts are brought to the groom and bride http://www.onislam.net/english/culture-and-entertainment/traditions/411646-afghan-muslim-wedding.html http://www.onislam.net/english/culture-and-entertainment/ special-coverage/454711-wedding-traditions-in-muslim-communities-special.html
Marriage Ceremony • After the lunch, elders start going to the bride’s house • Soon after, everyone follows • Groom arrives on a decorated horse • Musicians play tambourines http://www.nerdygaga.com/3723/wedding-traditions-and-meanings/ http://culturalembrace.blogspot.com/2011_02_01_archive.html http://www.onislam.net/english/culture-and-entertainment/traditions/411646-afghan-muslim-wedding.html http://islam.about.com/od/marriage/p/wed_afghan.htm
Marriage Ceremony • Once everyone is there, a marriage speech is given • Guests dance to the music • Mullah (holy man) is the one who marries the couple • Couple sit on a sofa • Couple has shawl placed over their heads and they hold a mirror • Tradition is called ““mirror and Qur’an.” http://fensti.freehostia.com/Engl180/KiteRunner/Weddings.html http://www.kwintessential.co.uk/articles/afghanistan/Afghan-Wedding-Traditions/4909 http://islam.about.com/od/marriage/p/wed_afghan.htm
Marriage Ceremony • The wedding cake is first cut and tasted by the newly married couple • It is then given out to the guests • Guests dance for a while • They dance the national dance of the Afghans, the Attan • People congratulate the couple on their marriage http://www.afghan4life.com/afghan-girl-very-nice-mast-mily/attan-dance-2012-afghan-wedding-attan-dance-2012-video_584f2dde1.html http://finechinagirl.com/2009/07/05/cake-boss-carlos-bakery-hoboken/ http://www.onislam.net/english/culture-and-entertainment/traditions/411646-afghan-muslim-wedding.html http://www.kwintessential.co.uk/articles/afghanistan/Afghan-Wedding-Traditions/4909 http://islam.about.com/od/marriage/p/wed_afghan.htm
After the Ceremony • Bride and Groom go to new home • When bride arrives, an animal (sheep or goat) is sacrificed for Allah • Bride hammers nail into door because it is a good omen for the marriage • A few days later (either 3 or 7) relatives and friends bring gifts for bride http://www.onislam.net/english/culture-and-entertainment/traditions/411646-afghan-muslim-wedding.html http://islam.about.com/od/marriage/p/wed_afghan.htm
Works Cited • "Afghan Marriage Traditions and Prevailing Laws." Afghan Marriage Traditions. N.p., n.d. Web. 02 Mar. 2013. <http://www.muslim-marriage-guide.com/afghan-marriage-traditions.html>. • "Afghan Weddings." Afghan Weddings. N.p., n.d. Web. 02 Mar. 2013. <http://fensti.freehostia.com/Engl180/KiteRunner/Weddings.html>. • "Attan Dance 2012 Afghan Wedding Attan Dance 2012." Afghan 4 Life, 2013. Web. 2 Mar. 2013. <http://www.afghan4life.com/afghan-girl-very-nice-mast-mily/attan-dance-2012-afghan-wedding-attan-dance-2012-video_584f2dde1.html>.
Works Cited • "Cake Boss: Carloâs Bakery â Hoboken." Cake Boss: Carloâs Bakery â Hoboken : Finechinagirl. N.p., n.d. Web. 02 Mar. 2013. <http://finechinagirl.com/2009/07/05/cake-boss-carlos-bakery-hoboken/>. • "Cultural Embrace Travel Tidbits." : February 2011. N.p., n.d. Web. 02 Mar. 2013. <http://culturalembrace.blogspot.com/2011_02_01_archive.html>. • "A Family Matter, Part I." Afghan Womens Writing Project. N.p., n.d. Web. 02 Mar. 2013. <http://awwproject.org/2010/05/a-family-matter-part-i/>. • "Interesting Facts & Information: Tourism, Travel, Culture, Language, Business, People. Â» Blog Archive Â» Afghan Wedding Traditions." Interesting Facts Information Tourism Travel Culture Language Business People RSS. N.p., n.d. Web. 02 Mar. 2013. <http://www.kwintessential.co.uk/articles/afghanistan/Afghan-Wedding-Traditions/4909>.
Works cited • "OnIslam.net." Afghan Muslim Wedding. N.p., n.d. Web. 02 Mar. 2013. <http://www.onislam.net/english/culture-and-entertainment/traditions/411646-afghan-muslim-wedding.html>. • "OnIslam.net." Wedding Traditions in Muslim Communities (Special). N.p., n.d. Web. 02 Mar. 2013. <http://www.onislam.net/english/culture-and-entertainment/special-coverage/454711-wedding-traditions-in-muslim-communities-special.html>. • "Wedding Traditions and Meanings." Marriage Traditions and Meanings. N.p., n.d. Web. 02 Mar. 2013. <http://www.nerdygaga.com/3723/wedding-traditions-and-meanings/>. • "Weddings in Afghanistan." About.com Islam. N.p., n.d. Web. 02 Mar. 2013. <http://islam.about.com/od/marriage/p/wed_afghan.htm>.