BASIC COUNSELING IN THE CHURCH CONTEXTSound Baptist Bible CollegeDecember – FebruaryInstructor: Pastor Marvin McKenzie
Course Times: The 2rd Saturday of the month, December – February from 9:00 AM- 3:00 PM Course Description: This course will cover basic counseling techniques any mature Christian may employ. It will also deal with philosophy of Christian counseling and the practice of referrals to professional Christian counselors. Course Requirements: Students will be expected to 1. Attend all classes. 2. Read the textbook and prepare a class paper (due the final Saturday) outlining common biblical themes discovered throughout the Scriptures presented in the text and how these common themes might be used in basic counseling 3. Take notes during lessons and participate in class discussions 5. A test will be given at the end of the course. Grades will be based on 50% attendance 30% participation 20% test
Philosophy of Church Bible Counseling • Titus 2:1-8 • But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine: • That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience. • The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; • That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, • To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. • Young men likewise exhort to be sober minded. • In all things shewing thyself a pattern of good works: in doctrine shewing uncorruptness, gravity, sincerity, • Sound speech, that cannot be condemned; that he that is of the contrary part may be ashamed, having no evil thing to say of you. (KJV) • Mature members of the church training less mature • Discipleship a form of counseling • Ladies counseling ladies, men counseling men • Protecting yourself from sexual questions
BIBLE BAPTIST CHURCH of PuyallupCOUNSELING POLICY Bible Baptist Church offers counseling under certain conditions: 1. Our counseling sessions normally maximum of 7 weeks. If the counselee desires further counseling I refer them to a professional Biblical counselor. The counselee must understand that we are a Bible based ministry with distinctive Biblical values. We teach and stress these values in counseling sessions. We do not use traditionally accepted counseling methods during our sessions. The counselee should not expect these sessions to resemble typical counseling practices. 2. We require the counselee to attend each of our services at the church while counseling sessions are underway. We have church services Sunday morning, Sunday evening and Wednesday night. If the counselee is a member of another independent Baptist Church it will be acceptable for them to attend services there, but the same condition exists; they must attend all services unless providentially hindered.
BIBLE BAPTIST CHURCH of PuyallupCOUNSELING POLICY Bible Baptist Church offers counseling under certain conditions: 3. If the counselee is unable to attend all of the services during any one of the weeks of counseling, the session for that week will cost $15.00 per hour to be paid in advance. 4. We often give assignments to be performed before the next session. If the assignment is not completed the above fee applies for the session following the assignment. 5. The counselee must understand we are not registered as counselors in the state of Washington. The counselee must agree to not hold Pastor Marvin McKenzie, Bible Baptist Church of Puyallup, WA, or any of its members liable for any perceived or real problems connected with our counseling sessions. 6. The sessions should be scheduled for Tuesday or Thursday afternoons. On occasion I can schedule other days and times but I like to make them the exception rather than the rule.
BIBLE BAPTIST CHURCH of PuyallupCOUNSELING POLICY Bible Baptist Church offers counseling under certain conditions: I, __________________________________, acknowledge and understand that Pastor Marvin McKenzie is not a licensed counselor in the state of Washington, but is rather a preacher of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. I agree that by receiving counseling from Pastor McKenzie I will strive to complete any assignments he may give. I further agree that I will not hold Pastor McKenzie, Bible Baptist Church, or any of its members liable for any perceived or real problems connected with any counseling sessions received. ______________________ __________ Counselee Date
THE NAMES OF GODCOUNSELLOR Isaiah 9:6 Some people believe that Isaiah 9:6 has only four names, not five. • Wonderful counselor • Mighty God • Everlasting Father • Prince of Peace
THE NAMES OF GODCOUNSELLOR I personally believe that wonderful and counselor should be separated into two different names for Christ, and I intend to demonstrate why today. But there is no doubt that Christ is a wonderful counselor. And it is He that we need to run to for counsel and direction for our lives. • Not the therapists • Not the psychologists • Not even the Christian counselors and pastors
THE NAMES OF GODCOUNSELLOR The only kind of human counselor I think is worth his salt is the kind whose believes all he can do is take you by the hand and lead you to the Wonderful Counselor, Jesus Christ.
THE NAMES OF GODCOUNSELLOR THE QUALIFICATION OF THIS COUNSELOR A. The passages Romans 15:14 KJV And I myself also am persuaded of you, my brethren, that ye also are full of goodness, filled with all knowledge, able also to admonish one another. Colossians 3:16 KJV Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord.
THE NAMES OF GODCOUNSELLOR THE QUALIFICATION OF THIS COUNSELOR A. The passages The Hebrew word counselor in Isaiah 9 means "to advise, to deliberate or resolve." The word admonish means "to put in mind, to caution, rebuke or warn."
THE NAMES OF GODCOUNSELLOR THE QUALIFICATION OF THIS COUNSELOR A. The passages The purpose of counsel is to put things before a person's mind to bring about a resolution for them.
THE NAMES OF GODCOUNSELLOR THE QUALIFICATION OF THIS COUNSELOR B. The principles From these two passages three qualifications have been suggested: 1. A knowledge of the Scriptures as they apply to personal life 2. A concern for others 3. An enthusiasm and zeal for life
THE NAMES OF GODCOUNSELLOR THE QUALIFICATION OF THIS COUNSELOR You have to care for others (full of goodness, empathy) You have to have the tools to help others (Word of Christ dwell in your richly, filled with all knowledge) You need to enjoy and love life (richly, songs and hymns and spiritual songs) Without the concern you will not be motivated Without the knowledge of the Scriptures you will not be equipped Without the zest for life you will be overcome with the trials of the work (if you are not an overcomer, you will be overcome!)
THE NAMES OF GODCOUNSELLOR THE QUALIFICATION OF THIS COUNSELOR C. The application to Jesus If these are in fact appropriate qualifications for counselors, Christ fills the requirements above any other.
THE NAMES OF GODCOUNSELLOR THE QUALIFICATION OF THIS COUNSELOR His concern Romans 5:8 KJV But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. His knowledge John 13:3 KJV Jesus knowing that the Father had given all things into his hands, and that he was come from God, and went to God; His zeal for life John 1:4 KJV In him was life; and the life was the light of men.
THE NAMES OF GODCOUNSELLOR THE CHARACTER OF THIS COUNSELOR A. His counsel guides Psalms 73:24 KJV Thou shalt guide me with thy counsel, and afterward receive me to glory. It both protects and controls. Guidance is restrictive. A guide tells you where you may go, but he also tells you where you may not.
THE NAMES OF GODCOUNSELLOR THE CHARACTER OF THIS COUNSELOR B. His counsel instructs Isaiah 40:13-14 KJV Who hath directed the Spirit of the LORD, or being his counsellor hath taught him? With whom took he counsel, and who instructed him, and taught him in the path of judgment, and taught him knowledge, and shewed to him the way of understanding? Counsel requires we come to understand truth and judgment.
THE NAMES OF GODCOUNSELLOR THE CHARACTER OF THIS COUNSELOR C. His counsel comforts Proverbs 27:9 KJV Ointment and perfume rejoice the heart: so doth the sweetness of a man's friend by hearty counsel. Does this mean that everything Christ says to us is easy to take and pleasant to the ears? No. John 6 .. the hard sayings and how many turned away from Him because of them. Nevertheless, those very hard sayings are an immense comfort to those who submit to them.
THE NAMES OF GODCOUNSELLOR THE DISCERNING OF HIS COUNSEL • How do we know the counsel of Christ? • How does He do it?
THE NAMES OF GODCOUNSELLOR THE DISCERNING OF HIS COUNSEL A. Through the Scriptures 2 Timothy 3:16-17 KJV All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: That the man of God may be perfect, throughly furnished unto all good works. Colossians says to let the Word of Christ dwell in you richly. During those times when we need guidance and counsel from the Lord we need to follow the counsel of
THE NAMES OF GODCOUNSELLOR THE DISCERNING OF HIS COUNSEL A. Through the Scriptures Psalms 1:1-3 KJV Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful. But his delight is in the law of the LORD; and in his law doth he meditate day and night. And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper. Especially when you need to know what to do, get away from the ungodly and get into your Bible.
THE NAMES OF GODCOUNSELLOR THE DISCERNING OF HIS COUNSEL B. Through prayer Judges 20:18 KJV And the children of Israel arose, and went up to the house of God, and asked counsel of God, and said, Which of us shall go up first to the battle against the children of Benjamin? And the LORD said, Judah shall go up first. Judges 20:23 KJV (And the children of Israel went up and wept before the LORD until even, and asked counsel of the LORD, saying, Shall I go up again to battle against the children of Benjamin my brother? And the LORD said, Go up against him.)
THE NAMES OF GODCOUNSELLOR THE DISCERNING OF HIS COUNSEL B. Through prayer This sort of prayer requires that we not only ask, but that we also know how to hear the Lord. First: Be still, stop and wait Second: Be persistent; keep asking until you sense the answer Third: be aware, He isn't going to answer in the wind, the earthquake or the fire but in the still small voice (1 Kings 19:12) There was a wind There was an earthquake and There was a fire But God wasn't in them. You will have to be aware of spiritual things to wait for God while all those crashing sounds pass.
THE NAMES OF GODCOUNSELLOR THE DISCERNING OF HIS COUNSEL C. Through the counsel of mature saints/pastor Titus 2:15 KJV These things speak, and exhort, and rebuke with all authority. Let no man despise thee. God gives us the local church, the mature saints in the church and the pastor of the church to give counsel. We do not well whenever we make major life choices without seeking our pastor's input
THE NAMES OF GODCOUNSELLOR THE DISCERNING OF HIS COUNSEL D. Through circumstances Genesis 24:27 KJV And he said, Blessed be the LORD God of my master Abraham, who hath not left destitute my master of his mercy and his truth: I being in the way, the LORD led me to the house of my master's brethren. Eliezar was Abraham's servant, sent to find a bride of Isaac. He has asked God for certain things to line up in order to help him discern the Lord's will. Being in the way, allowing God to work out the circumstances, Eliezar was able to know the will of God.
THE NAMES OF GODCOUNSELLOR THE DISCERNING OF HIS COUNSEL E. Through the confirmation of the Holy Spirit Acts 16:6-10 KJV Now when they had gone throughout Phrygia and the region of Galatia, and were forbidden of the Holy Ghost to preach the word in Asia, After they were come to Mysia, they assayed to go into Bithynia: but the Spirit suffered them not. And they passing by Mysia came down to Troas. And a vision appeared to Paul in the night; There stood a man of Macedonia, and prayed him, saying, Come over into Macedonia, and help us. And after he had seen the vision, immediately we endeavoured to go into Macedonia, assuredly gathering that the Lord had called us for to preach the gospel unto them.
THE NAMES OF GODCOUNSELLOR THE DISCERNING OF HIS COUNSEL Pay attention to that still small voice inside you. It is amazing how many times God will be telling us either we should do something or we should not and we ignore the leadership of the Holy Spirit. • Learn to tell the difference between your flesh's desires and the voice of the Holy Ghost within you and • Learn to obey that voice.
Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Most people are in trouble because they haven't been doing the basics. Three major areas of life • Physical • Psychological • Spiritual Help people be sound in all three areas.
Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life We are not Christian counselors we are Biblical counselors. We tell people what the Bible says.
Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Once we have trusted Christ our goal is to become healthier Christians.
Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Go through your difficult circumstances so that someone else may be blessed. The things we go through and have been through are the tools God will use to help us help others. You may not tell them how you have been through a trouble but you will know how to relate because you have experienced difficulties. Treasure up those experiences to be used of the Lord.
Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Paul and Silas knew how to live above their circumstances. Acts 16 "You cannot choose your circumstances. All you can choose is how you react to your circumstances." They went through their difficulty that God might show His power on their behalf.
Family, work, etc Spirit Intuition, Conscience and Communion Soul Personality 1. Salvation 2. Assurance 3. Security 4. Acceptance 5. Total Commitment Romans 12:1 1. Inferiority 2. Insecurity 3. Inadequacy 4. Guilt: real (sin) Imagined 5. Worry: Doubts Fears Fear S Hostility Emotion 1. Depression 2. Anxiety Mind 1. Fantasy 2. Paranoia 3. Obsessive thoughts 4. Schizophrenia Body C Tension headache or migraine, nervous stomach, Ulcer, hives, rashes, allergies, asthma, some arthritis, spastic colon, palpitation of heart, severe hysteria, repiratory ailments, compulsive eating, fatigue, insomnia, escape in sleep, depression, etc. Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life
Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Soul: Relations to man personality, feelings Inferiority, insecurity, etc. because of the input of the world. Spirit: relates to God - consciousness, intuition. Knowing, no feeling Assurance Body: Relates to environment Self is in the center of it all and it comes out in several ways: • Hostility - violence • Emotions - depression, anxiety • Problems in the body, illness, heart issues, tension, stress because we haven't talked out our frustrations and problems.
Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Problems come because of • Stupidity • Sin • Serving God
Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Problems in the Body Four reasons why people get sick 1. Because of the natural weakness of the flesh - because of Adamic sin 2. Because of the chastening of God 3. Because of (for) the glory of God man born blind. 4. Because it is appointed unto man to die. A release from this life into the next.
Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Problems in the mind • Fantasize • Detach through TV, Radio, etc. • Most people can't hear God because of the noises in their life. • Paranoia • Obsessive thoughts • Schizophrenia
Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Problems in the Spirit Number one goal is to love the Lord If you love someone you don’t want to displease them. Spirit filled Christians do not burn out. If they burn out they are serving in the energy of the flesh.
Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Problems in the Spirit Some people only serve God out of fear. When the fear goes away they quit. Love is the number one motive He wants us to love Him. • We will serve Him because we fear Him but his desire is for us to love Him. • He can get His work done (donkey, cock) but He wants us to love Him.
Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Problems in the Spirit • God wants our love • People need our love
Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Problems in the Spirit Second goal is to help others love God Obedience will come if we love God properly. Too many people teach their children commandments but the kids grow up to leave God because we did not teach them to love God.
Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Problems in the Spirit Love is more caught than taught. They will learn to love God by seeing us love God • Talk of Him • Praise Him • Express His blessings • Pray for answers and point out the solution and praise Him Romans 11:36 • Of Him • Through Him • To Him Everything rises and falls on God. (Not on leadership)
Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Problems in the Spirit 1 Corinthians 3:11-15 If we do the work for God and have the wrong motives we are building wood hay and stubble. • Sing • Teaching class • Soul winning • Desiring position With wrong motives
Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Problems in the Spirit Do what we do because we are Christ directed. • Pray about what we give (above the tithe) • Pray about where we serve the Lord • Pray about day to day duties. How much communication do we have with God.
Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Problems in the Spirit If we love God we will love our neighbor • Mean • Cold • Bitter If you are characterized by these you don’t love God.
Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Problems in the Spirit • Cannot manufacture Christ love. • Revelation 2:1
Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Problems in the Spirit Love for God is first Matthew 22:35-40 • First work is to love Jesus • Second work is to help others Love the Lord
Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Four things unfulfilled in sinner's life • Love • Acceptance • Care • Purpose in life • Purpose in life is your worth, the ability to feel important.
Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Five emotional needs • Acceptance • Approval • Admiration • Application • Assurance