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Apology, Forgiveness & Reconciliation. Susan Daicoff, Professor of Law Phoenix School of Law 2013. apology. Apology Elements. Understand & acknowledge impact of my actions on you Say I’m sorry; express remorse & regret for my actions Sincere, non-self-focused attitude w/ visible shame
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Apology, Forgiveness & Reconciliation Susan Daicoff, Professor of Law Phoenix School of Law 2013 (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
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Apology Elements • Understand & acknowledge impact of my actions on you • Say I’m sorry; express remorse & regret for my actions • Sincere, non-self-focused attitude w/ visible shame • Without anger or blaming • Accept responsibility for what happened • Express that my actions were “wrong” • Express willingness to change in future & plan for changing and not repeating • Express willingness to make restitution (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
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Definitions of Forgiveness Cohen - “cessation of resentment against the offender” Fincham - “a defining feature is the foreswearing of resentment” Li-ann - Ex. where victims issued a joint public statement accepting the offender’s apology & promising to work together in the future to “promote mutual understanding” (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
Forgiveness Elements • Precursors: Express impact of your actions on me • Believe you are sorry • Have you accept all blame for what happened • Ask why you did it & get answers from you • Have faith that something good will come of this • Hear plan to receive material restitution from you • Hear plan for how this won’t happen again • Accept your apology • Express forgiveness & mercy to you • Stop being angry with you • Not lecture you from a moral “hilltop” • See you as a fellow human being • Do more than just listen or hear (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
“encounter”exchange core sequenceprocess (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
Shifts • Wronged-- shifts from anger to acceptance to openness. Understands why act was done and has empathy for wrongdoer • Wrongdoer -- shifts from defensiveness and shame to openness, humility, and acceptance of responsibility. Has empathy for impact of act on wronged • Mutual underlying, explicit or implicit, recognition: “We are both human, no one is perfect, we are both co-members of the human race, we are both human beings worthy of value and there is some commonality between us.” (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
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Link to the Comprehensive Law Movement: Law as a Healing Profession Apology-forgiveness-reconciliation sequence is a route to healing In legal disputes & matters The movement offers structures for the A-F-R sequence to occur (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
A vibrant movement in the law towards law as a healing, positive force Therapeutic jurisprudence Creative problem solving Mindfulness Preventive law Holistic justice Procedural justice Transformative mediation Collaborative law Restorative justice Problem solving courts (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
Law as a Healing Profession Holistic Justice Lenses: Therapeutic Jurisprudence Traditional/ Adversarial (win/lose – binary) Religious/Spiritual Preventive Law Creative Problem Solving Procedural Justice Processes: mindfulness Negotiation/Settlement Collaborative Law Problem Solving Courts Evaluative Mediation Restorative Justice Facilitative Mediation Arbitration Preventive Law Transformative Mediation Litigation & other judicial processes (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
Forgiveness is important at least in: sanative Therapeutic jurisprudence “recognition” Restoration of offender to society Transformative mediation Restorative justice (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
Therapeutic Jurisprudence • Law, like it or not, has therapeutic & antitherapeutic consequences on parties, groups, and systems • Legal personnel can intentionally seek to enhance the therapeutic results and minimize antitherapeutic results of legal rules, processes, and actors, without trumping legal rights • “well being;” mental health (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
Transformative Mediation • Explicit transformative goal: to engender “moral growth” through increasing parties’: • “Empowerment” & • “Recognition” • Focus on improving parties (not situation) (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
Collaborative Law • Nonlitigative • Independent legal counsel • Interdisciplinary teams • “Four” way conferences • Contractual commitment to w/draw if go to court • Binding commitments • Neutral experts • Interest-based bargaining (vs. position-based) (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
RESTORATIVE JUSTICE CRIMINAL LAW TRANSFORMED: Victim, Wrongdoer, & Community Encounter Conferencing Apology-forgiveness-reconciliation core sequence (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
What is reconciliation? (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
Reconciliation literature No universally agreed-on definition Agreement between adversaries Restoring right relations among enemies Fundamental shift in relations Desired goal on its own Possible (but not always) result of apology-forgiveness sequence Peace Closure (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
A wrong: a rip in the fabric (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
features of reconciliation Interpersonal? Rebuilding of trust? Long process? Voluntary? ? (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
Reconciliation Definitions & Ideas After apology & forgiveness, reconciliation may or may not occur. Reconciliation is present when the apologizer and the person(s) harmed move away from an adversarial stance of anger, blame, shame, and resentment towards a mutual appreciation of each other and perhaps a sort of peace, or harmony, between them. In one Singaporean example, Li-ann references reconciliation as a possible outcome of the apology-forgiveness exchange in claiming that the “reconciliatory posture” adopted by the Buddhist and Taoist leaders may promote “empathy and reconciliation” and is “essential to long-term or durable peace.” (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
Law as a Healing Profession • Vertical & Horizontal Justice (Yazzie) • Vertical & Horizontal Harmony (Link) • Vertical & Horizontal Reconciliation (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
Vert & Horiz Harmony • Notre Dame Law School Dean Emeritus David T. Link described “vertical harmony” & “horizontal harmony” as possible outcomes of dispute resolution processes. • Horizontal harmony refers to harmony between disputing parties, between people in a community, or between a criminal offender and the relevant community; • Vertical harmony refers to the offender or apologizer being reconciled with and to his or her Creator or God. (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
Vertical & Horizontal Reconciliation (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
The State of the Legal Profession (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
Solutions & Responses 06 (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
the future of the legal profession will likely include … (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
thecomprehensive law movement (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
[Shameless book plug] (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
Traditional Justice Competitive Aggressive Ambitious Emphasis on winning (dominance) Rights-oriented Logical, analytical Materialistic, law-as-a-business Expert, zealous advocate for one client (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
Comprehensive Justice Collaborative Interdisciplinary Win/win Interest-oriented Focused on emotions, values, needs, & relationships Holistic, right-brained Sustainable outcomes Conflict resolver & problem solver Adversarial conflict is often destructive Equal partner with client (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
A vibrant movement in the law towards law as a healing, positive force Therapeutic jurisprudence Preventive law Creative problem solving Mindfulness “TJ/PL” Holistic justice Procedural justice Transformative mediation Collaborative law Restorative justice Problem solving courts (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
Important Websites J. Kim Wright’s site ProblemSolving Courts Therapeutic Jurisprudence Collaborative Law Transformative Mediation Restorative Justice (2) • www.cuttingedgelaw.com • http://www.courtinnovation.org/ • http://www.law.arizona.edu/depts/upr-intj/ • http://www.collaborativepractice.com/default.asp • http://www.transformativemediation.org/ • http://www.restorativejustice.org/ • http://www.cehd.umn.edu/ssw/rjp/ (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
common ground of these approaches or “vectors” optimize human wellbeing ”rights plus” (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
What does this new way of resolving legal matters look like? (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
lawyers with excellent empathy and insight (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
a collaborative, egalitarian lawyer-client relationship (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
multidisciplinary, collaborativeproblem solving (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
innovative conflict resolution models (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
no more “one-size-fits-all” (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
differentiated legal services Lawyers who solve problems (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
Excellent interpersonal awareness (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
active listening & empathy (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
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participation in decisionmaking (or an explanation) (c) Susan Daicoff, 2013.
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