1. Chapter 24 Handling Negative Behavior P 497 - 515

2. Quiz – define the following: • 1. natural consequences…… • 2. logical consequences • 3. restitution

3. Parenting terms

4. Natural consequences

5. Logical consequences

6. Restitution

7. Springboard • What does it take to become a skillful athlete? • What does it take to play and instrument well? • What does it take: To sew a complicated garment? • ………………>

8. Achievement come through knowledge, work, and practices…. • The same is true of raising children successfully. …. • To raise a well-behaved child, parent need knowledge about how to handle negative behavior and the energy and will to take actions.

9. Look at figure 24.1 p 498 • Do you think behaviors that involve a loss of self-control should be handled differently in older children than in younger children. • Explain

11. Check Your Facts Questions page 514

12. 1.What are at least five reasons for negative behavior? Reasons for Negative Behavior P. 498 – 499 …..>

13. Has never been told that a particular behavior is unacceptable….. • Has been given a rule or limit, but does not fully understand it….. • Has not yet mastered the self-control needed to behave appropriately at all times….. • Temporarily has less self-control than usual because of being tired, hungry , or ill….. • Is testing the limits to see whether they will be enforced…. • Is bored and unwilling or unable to find anything constructive to do….. • Is misbehaving to get attention….. • Has a serious physical or emotional problem affecting behavior….. • Is involved in drug or alcohol use.

14. 2.Should emotions be punished? Why or why not? No. Emotions are normal and can be expressed. The behavior used to express emotions, however, can be punished when necessary.

15. 3. What are at least four points to consider when analyzing behavior? Analyzing behavior Pp 500-501

16. What is the child’s developmental level? • Is the behavior within the child’s control? • Does the child know that the behavior is wrong? • Was the child following the rules and limits that were set? • Was the behavior intentional? • What factors may have contributed to the behavior?

17. A small child (under age two) is standing by a wading pool with another child the same age. After studying the other child for several minutes, the first child calmly reaches over and pushes the second child into the water. ……… • Analyze this behavior and explain how to respond if you were the parents of each child

18. 4. Why should some behavior be ignored? Attention-seeking behavior should be ignored; when not acknowledged, child might stop behavior on his or her own

19. 5. When is okay to give reminders? When child is learning a new rule or limit.

20. 6. Compare natural consequences with logical consequences. Natural consequences: automatic results imposed by parents. Logical consequences: reasonable results imposed by parents

21. 7. Explain for guidelines for making logical consequences effective. Guide for Logical Consequences p 505

22. Consequences should be related to the undesirable behavior. • Consequences should be important to the child. • Consequences should be proportional to the undesirable behavior. • Consequences should be timely.

23. Suggest appropriate logical consequences for the follow behaviors: • Throwing a tantrum at the mall • Leaving a mess in the living room • Sneaking out after bedtime • Hitting a younger sibling.

24. 8. Why is time-out useful? Allows parent and child to calm down; motivates child not to repeat behavior; child learns self-control.

25. For some children, time-outs may not work. Some refuse to sit still, while others simply don’t mind being set to time-out. For these children other types of consequences are more useful.

26. How does time-out give children a tool for life?......... • Adults can use self-imposed time-outs to regain control…….. • Some parents tell children that they can rejoin the family after they have calmed down – a lesson in self control.

27. 4th period start here Wednesday

28. 9. What are four inappropriate responses to a child’s behavior Making idle threats; shaming or belittling; yelling or using harsh works; withholding love.

29. Parents must make the connection between their own behavior toward their children and the long-term effects on the children. Children can carry emotional scars for life if parents ignore this link.

30. 3rd period start here Wednesday

31. 10. List at least four suggestions for managing anger. Managing Parental Anger p.508

32. Walk away from the situation for a short period of time…… • Take a deep breath before speaking or acting on impulse…… • Count to 10, or even 100…… • Take a walk or a warm bath, if someone else is there to watch the child…… • Call a friend who is will to listen…… • Pause to imagine how the child will feel hearing an angry outburst…… • Don’t take a child’s behavior personally. Imagine how a well-qualified child care work would react.

34. 11. What should a parent do after realizing that he or she has not been fair to a child? When parents make mistakes p 508

35. Parents should not try to hide mistakes, pretend they didn’t happen, or blame someone else. • It is okay to let children know that parents are not perfect • The parent should admit the mistake and apologize.

36. 12. What is an effective response when a child uses unacceptable language Model appropriate language; don’t respond with shock, suggest alternative words.

37. 13. List at least four tips for handling aggression in a child. Aggression p 510

38. Recognize appropriate social behavior….. • Never reward aggressive behavior….. • Refuse to tolerate aggressive behavior….. • Never use aggression in response….. • Help children control aggressive impulses…. • Seek professional help for children whose behavior consistently threatens the safety of others……

39. Watch a children's cartoon …… • Looney Tunes Bugs Bunny classic moments .http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NU1sIxVGR9o • Bugs Bunny - Wild And Woolly Hare http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dzB3v5Xugh8 • Bugs Bunny - Bedevilled Rabbit (Tasmanian Devil) . http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eZOT9wJcYMU • Most Violent Looney Tunes Moment Ever http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MGH03m2pGEM • Gender & Comm. - Kids Cartoon Violence http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oceyNYLoUCc

40. What are the consequences of each, if any. • What do these programs teach children about aggressive behavior? • How should parents handle their children viewing shows like these? • Compare the impact of aggression in cartoons with other programs.

41. Would a child be more likely to cheat if they were under strong pressure from parents to succeed? • How can parents encourage their children to achieve without driving them to cheating

42. 14. How can parents model honesty? Be honest themselves; admit mistakes.

43. 15. What is restitution as a logical consequence for theft? Something paid back, as in returning or replacing stolen items.

44. Do you see a moral difference between taking cookies from the cookie jar at home and taking a candy bar from a store? • Do you think parents should handle these tow types of offenses the same way? • Explain..

45. 16. Is seeking profession help for a child a sign of parental failure? Explain. No. Seeking help shows love for child and wish to use any methods and resources needed to provide for child’s needs.

46. How can parents tell when their child’s behavior problems require professional help? • How can they distinguish between ordinary misbehavior and serious emotional or behavioral disorders?

47. Think Critically Questions page 514

48. 1. Analyzing Viewpoints A child does something wrong and then tells the truth about it. Should you or should you not discipline the child? Why?

49. 1. • Circumstances may help in decisions. Could praise the child for telling truth and give diminished punishment for the offense.

50. 2. Understanding Cause and Effect