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Asia’s Best in Powerpoint Presentation D I A M O N D A W A R D First Place. DAISY JANE C. ORCULLO, Ph.D. Senior Lecturer-Visiting Universiti Utara Malaysia jane@uum.edu.my 28 th May 2012. Muslim children of divorce families: Exploring their perceptions and experiences.
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Asia’s Best in Powerpoint Presentation D I A M O N D A W A R D First Place
DAISY JANE C. ORCULLO, Ph.D. Senior Lecturer-Visiting Universiti Utara Malaysia jane@uum.edu.my 28th May 2012 Muslim children of divorce families:Exploring their perceptions and experiences
The beginnings, the demands, and inspirations of undertaking the study Objectives • Explore the Muslim children experiences on parental divorce • Understand the meanings of their experiences • Identify the coping process from Islamic practices
Early hours of dawn thoughts flashed into my mind how my father cried for help and suffered the pain because of the enlargement of his prostrate gland. I rushed him to the hospital, and without delay approached the counter that my father needed immediate medical help, even without a penny in my pocket as I still have to wait for my elder sister to arrive. My father survived the operation, yet he whispered to my mother: “without our youngest child, I could have been dead, for she was the only one who took the courage to bring me to the hospital.” Attachment Theory
Fieldwork Individual in-depth interview with audio recording/ Analytical reading of interview transcripts • Coding • Phenomenological frames Methodology
A qualitative study described the personal stories and experiences of seven (7) Muslim children whose parents are divorce. Data gathered in this study closed the existing space in the literature where Muslim children experiences on parental divorce is unheard of.
Analysis of data Internalizing Effects Mediating effects Externalizingeffects Inciting negative reactions Continuing effect of divorce Coping and healing strategies Perceptions on family and marriage Providing risks Eliciting some positive effects Description of Events/Anecdotes DATA
1. Initial Reactions: Hurt, Disappointment, Frustration, and Confusion Father ‘s separation - for sisters May & Lyn Mother ‘s separation – Nasheeda Intact Parents - Karima
2. Heightened Reactions: Anger, Blame, Rebellion, and Hatred The Father’s Illicit Affair – Naims Parents’ Abandonment – Ahmad Irresponsible Father – Rael
3. Continuing Impact of Divorce Painful Memories KarimaAnd Her Coach The Sisters: May & Lyn Naimsand her Mother Resentment
4.Externalizing effects of parental divorce Social Detachment The Island Within Lyn Self Exile from Sports “I am Unworthy” Poor Academic Performance May: the Underachiever “I Lost my Concentration”
5. Eliciting Positive Effects Maturity and Independence Karima: The Big Sister May: The Second Mother Rael:The Big Brother Reorientation of Self-Image Ahmad: The Apprentice Karima: The Unsung Heroine Hashim: Making a Choice
6. Mediating effects of parental divorce The Islamic way of life provides “the spiritual nourishment needed for piety and righteousness, for safety, and peace” (Hammudah 1975: 107).
7. Coping and Healing Strategy The Islamic Prayer Mother: The Light of the Family The Divine Will Rael and His Faith Naims and Karima
Summary/Conclusions • The descriptive phenomenological method afforded participants the opportunity to talk about their experiences on parental divorce. • Ordinarily, pain is a temporary part of life, but for most of the participants, the suppression of emotional pain worked as childhood survival skill. • Coupled with a strong support within the family and their individual sense of coping, many of them managed to recover from the effects of their parents’ separation and divorce. There are lessons to be learned in any life’s trial especially when it involves innocent children.
Strengthen the Islamization of counseling. A production of an Islamic model of counseling is imperative to guide Muslim counselors in dealing with Muslim clients deal with their problems, Muslim children for one; • Guidance and counseling services of Islamic schools should be modified. • Conduct another study on children of divorce parents, yet those who are currently in the situation. A comparative study on the intensity on its impact and effects could be one of the variables. Moreover, the use of phenomenological approach is likewise recommended. Recommendations
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