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Healthy Relationships. What does a healthy relationship look like?. It makes people in them happier and eases stress They are realistic and flexible Includes talking and listening Includes taking care of your self Fight fair Compromise and give and take!. Healthy Relationships.
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What does a healthy relationship look like? • It makes people in them happier and eases stress • They are realistic and flexible • Includes talking and listening • Includes taking care of your self • Fight fair • Compromise and give and take!
Healthy Relationships • Beginning stages vs. down the road • How to handle conflict • Outside issues
What is considered unhealthy? • Control – needing to know where you are at all times. • Lack of trust – forbidding you to have friends of the opposite sex. • Put downs • Being together 24-7/social isolation • Lying
Unhealthy Relationships • Obsessions • Instant attraction, unrealistic expectations • Fear of abandonment • Always thinking the other person is cheating • Need to be with the other person constantly • Showing up at their house, work, etc • Calling and/or texting non stop • Feeling as if they can’t live without the other person
Unhealthy Relationships • Threats, guilt trips and feeling pressured to stay in the relationship for the other person
Unhealthy RelationshipsWhat to do if yours is? • Communicate your needs and expectations clearly with your partner • Set boundaries • Look for ways change within the other person and yourself • Determine if the good outweighs the bad • Both of you need to be in agreement to make change and move forward
Unhealthy RelationshipsHow to get out • Make sure your support system (parents, friends) is aware and standing by your side • Talk with your counselor, social worker or other trusted adult if need be • Be firm in your decision • Speak face to face and provide closure when possible • End all contact
“The Case of the Ever Present Ex” • You broke up with them • They broke up with you • If you’re over it • If you’re still hung up on them
Love or Infatuation • The relationship goes beyond feelings • Is this person your best friend? • Do you have similar goals? • Do you have the same family values? • Does this person accept you as yourself? • Does this person make you feel better about who you are? • Is this just a rebound relationship?
Being Happy with Yourself • Appreciate the positives in your life • Learn to accept who you are on the inside and out • Keep yourself busy • Spend time with friends and family that bring out the best in you • Know that you are not alone • Love comes in all forms
Healthy Relationships and Sex • 37 Reasons For Not Having Sex…..
Sex Myths and Facts Sex Myths You can’t get pregnant if: • -it’s your first time • -you’re both virgins • -the guy pulls out before climax • -the girl takes a bath, douches or urinates after sex • -you are on your menstrual cycle • -if it doesn’t go all the way in • -if you use two condoms The truth is in any of the above situations you could get pregnant
Pregnancy and STD Prevention • Abstinence • 100% effective
Pregnancy and STD Prevention Contraceptives • Condoms • 85-98% effective • Manufacturer defect • Human error when applying • They can break during sex
Pregnancy and STD Prevention • Birth Control Pills/Shots • pill 92-99% effective • must take same time and every day • can be ineffective when taking antibiotics or certain medications • is not always immediately effective once you begin taking it for the 1st time • does not protect against STD’s
Pregnancy and STD Prevention • Pulling out • 50% effective for pregnancy • Does not protect against STD’s • Other concerns
Facts on STD’s • 3 million teens will get diagnosed with an STD each year • 1 in 4 sexually active teens will get an STD • 1 in 2 people will have an STD by age 25 • STD’s can be transmitted and received without any symptoms. • Some STD’s are not curable leading to life long issues • STD’s increase risk for infertility, pelvic inflammatory disease and cancer.
Facts on STD’s Gardisal-HPV vaccination -protects against 4 types of HPV that commonly cause cancer or warts. -However there are over 40 types of HPV- So Gardisal should not be your only form of protection against STDs
Facts on Pregnancy • Less than 2% of teens choose adoption • Financial burdens and responsibilities • Misconceptions • Having a baby so that there will always be someone who loves you • Having a baby to keep the other person around • Cute and fun
Facts on Pregnancy • Father’s role • When you think you’re pregnant (but you’re really not) • 16 and Pregnant
Sex and the law • 17 is the age of consent unless the adult is more than 8 years older • Or the adult is a person of authority (coach, teacher, etc) • You are not legally able to give consent if you are intoxicated
Reputations and Rumors • Reputations are very easy to get and very hard to get rid of! • Double standards with guys and girls • Name calling activity
Resources www.itsyoursexlife.com www.stayteen.org