Sandra McIlhenny Portland State University School of Social Work Center for the Improvement of Service to Children and Families Child Welfare Partnership Parenting in the Digital Age
This training was developed for foster, adopt and relative caregivers in the Oregon Department of Human Services. If you are certified or work with another agency, please adhere to the policies of that agency.
Introductions • Trainer • Production Manager
Your role…. • A) Foster parent • B) Adoptive parent • C) Relative caregiver • D) Staff or community partner
Digital Natives Digital Immigrants Parenting in the Digital Age Marc Prensky, www.marprensky.com
Learning Objectives • Describe benefits and concerns in using computers, cell phones and other electronic devices. • Identify strategies for maintaining a safe computer & internet environment for youth in your care. • Identify potential dangerous practices and prevention strategies in online social networking sites.
Uncharted Territory YOU ARE HERE
Uncharted Territory DHS IS HERE
Safety, Well-Being and Permanency…. Let’s keep these goals for our children and youth in care in mind as we look at Parenting in the Digital Age!
Privacy Youth have a different attitude toward privacy.
How? How many ways do your children access the internet?
Where? My kids have access to the Internet at: • Home • School • Library • Friend’s home • ??????
Tip # 1 Keep the computer in a very visible location in the house. Do not put it in an office, den, bedroom, where there is little foot traffic.
Tip # 2 Check History, Favorites/Bookmarks, software and pictures on a regular basis.
Tip # 3 Use Strong passwords, and know your children’s passwords to their online accounts. http://www.passwordmeter.com
Tip # 3 Life is aCabaret Old Chum! Becomes LiaCOC1231 (Add a number that has meaning for you but is not guessable.)
Tip # 4 Usernames should not carry easily identifiable information as to name, age, gender and special interests.
Usernames Bad Usernames “soccerlad15” “centralhighcheer” “AdamTroop128” “angiesmith” “hotbabe13” “1610dogSt”
Usernames Good Usernames or e-mail names “fishface100” “jellybelly29” “malarkus” “bananasplit” “flyspeck99”
Tip # 5 Take Cyberbullying seriously.
How to respond to cyberbullying • Don’t Retaliate • Refute the messages received by others • Talk to the parents • Save the evidence • Talk to the school • Disable text messaging for a brief period
Tip # 6 ANYTHING connected to the internet is a potential avenue for good or bad things. This includes cell phones, mp3 players, flash drives, PSP, XBOX and Wii, E-readers, Pads
What? Are you familiar with the programs that are on the computer used by your children?
Tip # 7 Be THE Administrator. Most windows versions and Mac computers have user accounts. Only you should have administrative rights. Set-up all other users as a regular user.
Tip # 8 Develop age-appropriate guidelines for computer and internet use. In addition to the template provided by DHS, there are contracts on the Web that you can download and have your children sign.
Tip # 9 Use the Internet to help you learn what you need. www.google.com www.bing.comwww.howcast.com
Tip # 10 Talk to your kids about internet safety. Make sure they know to come to you if they have any “uncomfortable” exchanges on the Web. Tell them you will not get upset if this happens.
Remember Kids today are electronically savvy, but they are still kids, and sometimes they make bad choices. Praise them when they make good choices.