Parenting in the Digital Age Portland Public Schools Winter 2012
Turn and Talk Talk to the person next to you about the benefits and challenges of technology.
Benefits Always available More ways to communicate Information easily accessible Faster communication Can be a distraction Challenges Always available More ways communicate Information easily accessible Faster communication Can be a distraction Technology and Communication
Why?? • Experience has taught us that word meaning is more important than the color a word is written in. Interference occurs when you try to pay attention only to color.
In the Digital Age Digital immigrant versus digital native Adolescent brain development Thinking brain not finished developing Emotional brain overactive Encourage ongoing dialogue within family Family values vs. friends’ suggestions Know child’s interests Learn skills on how to appropriately respond to uncomfortable situations
Methods of Communication • Blogs • Cell Phone- Voice & Text Messaging • Emails • Gaming • Instant Message • Chats • Podcasting • Streaming Video • Social Networking
Text Message Shorthand 5 - wait to speak, a parent is in the room 55 - coast is clear, we can talk now ASL A/S/L - Age, Sex and Location? 420 -Marijuana ILU, ILY, 143, 459 - I Love You LMIRL- let’s meet in real life POS - parent over my shoulder ADR – address 182 – I hate you www.Netlingo.com
Social Networking Purpose? Examples: Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn Easy to join Once something is posted, it is out of our control. Use personal settings but assume everything posted is public information Teach and model appropriate sharing Safety vs. having lots of “friends” Report any inappropriate postings/profiles to network provider and the police. Parents Guide to Facebook at ConnectSafely.org
Cyber Ethics Plagiarism Piracy Free Speech vs. Threats Hacking Pornography including sexting These questions can be a guide… Would I want my principal or my grandmother to see this and would they approve of what I am doing?
What Can Parents Do? Have clear expectations for technology behavior Have child teach you new skills Visit social sites with your children You or other trusted adult be your child’s “friend” and monitor networking activity Require children to use privacy settings Remind children that “friends” are people they actually know Encourage screen names that comply with your family values Model – What do you do with phishing email? Identify red flags Educate – Supervise - Protect
ManagingTechnology • Moderation (adults and children) • Consider what is Not happening when screen time is happening • When you have a question, delay google, think about other ways to obtain information • As a family, establish media-free times • Limited technology before sleeping • E.g. Everyone charges phones in central place • Internet in home shuts down at certain time • TV and video games off • Netiquette
Online and Off… Bullying is: Unfair and one-sided; it happens when someone keeps hurting, frightening, threatening or leaving someone out on purpose Key Elements: Imbalance of power Intent to cause harm; deliberate, non-accidental Acts are repeated – showing pattern Vulnerability of victim
Dynamics of Bullying Bystanders Child with bullying behaviors Child who is targeted
Harassment Anonymous…? Not really… It is easier to express hurtful comments Cyber-bullies do not have to be larger or stronger than their targets It is challenging to monitor an electronic forum The false belief of privacy. How is it different in the Age of Technology?
PPS Harassment and Bullying Policy 4.30.060-P Harassment and bullying are prohibited. Definition includes physical, emotional and social harm Disciplinary action, up to and including expulsion, for harassment/bullying, false accusations and retaliation Witnesses and bystanders (including students, staff or volunteers) to a bullying incident are encouraged to immediately inform school staff.
PPS Filtering If students go to a website that is blocked, this search page will come up on their browser.
In the Classroom Teachers are encouraged to use tools, such as PortaPortal, which directs students to appropriate content and resources rather than letting them surf.
In Summary, Parents can: Model safe, respectful online behavior Establish media-free times and have fun together offline Use security settings and parental controls Set boundaries and respond appropriately to positive and negative behaviors Get involved in the online lives of children, just as you do in their “offline” lives Contact authorities in instances of harassment or illegal activity. Save evidence. Parents are still responsible… ethically and legally
Make informed choices Guard personal information & Passwords Learn to deal with the unexpected – emails, texts, pop-ups, photos, websites, language Think before you click…wait to send emotional messages Differentiate between people they know and those they don’t know Speak out if anything uncomfortable or harmful happens Students can: CYBER FOOTPRINTS ARE FOREVER
Digital Nation • A PBS Frontline video • http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontline/digitalnation/view/
Cybersafety Resources PPS Information Technology Dept. http://ITHOME.PPS.K12.OR.US Review the Acceptable Use Regulation policy together Visit the IT Parent Resource page www.OnGuardOnline.gov www.netsmartz.org www.staysafeonline.org Joan Marquis 503-916-2000 ext. 71009 firstname.lastname@example.org