Intra/Interpersonal communication

1. Intra/Interpersonal communication Making connections between self-talk and public interaction…

2. How do we create our self-concept? • Info from SELF • Draw picture of self – how you view yourself • 5 words • Inventory pg 115 • Info from OTHERS

3. Info from SELF: • Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs 1. Physical Needs 2. Security Needs 3. Social Needs 4. Self-esteem Needs 5. Self-fulfillment Needs 5 4 3 2 1

4. How do we show our sense of self to others? • Values: • Permanent idea of what is good or bad, worthwhile or not worthwhile • Beliefs: • What you THINK is true • Attitudes: • Based on your values; it’s how you respond based on what you think is good or bad, etc. • Feelings: • Emotional responses

5. How do we show our sense of self to others? • Values: • Valuing money, keeping trustworthy friends, being honest • Beliefs: • “Life is easier when you’re an adult.” • Crystal Lake is boring. • Attitudes: • If you value friendship, you may view every new meeting as a possible friendship. • Feelings: • Sadness, excitement, fear, etc. • Changes daily

6. How do we show our sense of self to others? Behavior Attitude Feelings

7. How do we show our sense of self to others? Behavior: Stay apart from the group Attitude: “Large groups never mix well, anyway.” Feelings: Sad

8. Practice Time! Behavior Attitude Feelings He arrived late and left early. She constantly talked down about herself. He always sits in the back corner She’s quiet every time the 5 friends are together.

9. Info from OTHERS • THEN we look at the situation • What is my ROLE? • What perception do I have of this situation? • What do people think of me? • How am I expected to behave? • Is there peer pressure to conform, AND how will I handle that? *People are amazing at adapting!!!

10. Try it! • Even on paper, you can already identify which “self” is appropriate for a situation! • Two-columns • Left side: All of your personality traits (List at least 10!) • Right side: Possible careers you may be interested in (List at least 5!)

11. Self-Concept and Communication • Self-disclosure – it’s what you did in your opening speech! • Definition: Sharing personal information or feelings with another person. People engage in self-disclosure to create and maintain relationships. • We make CHOICES as to what we disclose. • Public, Public/Private, Private

12. Johari Window • Created by Joseph Luft and Harry Ingham (hence, JO-HARI) Known to Self Not Known to Self Known To Others Not Known To Others OPEN BLIND HIDDEN UNKNOWN

13. Johari Window • DESCRIPTIONS Known to Self Not Known to Self Known To Others Not Known To Others OPEN – behavior and motivation known to an individual or others BLIND – others cans see things of which that individual is unaware. HIDDEN – an individual knows but does not reveal to others UNKNOWN – What the individual and others do not yet know

14. Try it! With a partner, fill out the empty Johari Window with examples! Known to Self Not Known to Self Known To Others Not Known To Others OPEN BLIND HIDDEN UNKNOWN

15. Moving on to…drum roll please…INTERPERSONAL COMMUNCATION • You have made and kept relationships all of your life! • How have you done this? • When you have been faced with a new situation (going to a new school, joining a new club/team, going to a new social setting, etc) how do you make new friends? Be specific!

16. Info from OTHERS • We assess PEOPLE in a situation first… • Cultural level of info • Sociological level of info • Individual level of info

17. Who are these people?

18. Who are these people?

19. Who is this person?

20. Cultural Level of Information • General characteristics that a person shares with a large group of people. • Examples: • Americans • Europeans • Crystal Lake/Chicago • Men/Women

21. Sociological or Group Level Information • Information you perceive about a person’s membership in a group. • Examples: • Athletes • Musicians • Teens • Senior Citizens • Parents • Scouts

22. Enter Stereotypes… • When you label people as being part of a certain group and treat them as if they possessed all of the characteristics of that group you are STEREOTYPING. • We have all done it, and had it done to us… • With a partner, share a time that you were unfairly stereotyped and why.

23. Individual Level of Information • You KNOW this person! • You have learned the special or unique characteristics of a person. • You know how experiences have shaped this person. • You know how the person differs from group to group.

24. Stages of Relationships • Stage I:First Meetings • First impressions • Info from Cultural/Sociological level is used • No real self-disclosure really happens

25. Stages of Relationships cont. • Stage II: Friendly Relationship • Answer these questions: • I have many deep friendships • I have many acquaintances and a few deep relationships. • I have no real friends, but I know lots of people. These are all Level II Relationships Once in this stage, you may move onto the next level of relationship as you get to know this person better and begin to share personal information.

26. Stages of Relationships • Stage III: Involved Relationship • This is a close friend. You know this person on an individual level and self-disclose regularly. Think of a person with whom you have an involved relationship and answer the following questions. True/False We spend time talking about our relationship. True/False We have a commitment to the relationship. True/False We can have a fight and it doesn’t mean the relationship is over.

27. Stages of Relationships • Stage IV: Stable Relationships • You know the person on an individual level VERY well. • You disclose more with this person than most people in your life. • You know their attitudes, feeling, beliefs, and values. What are some examples of stable relationships?

28. Homework • Answer the following questions in your notebook. • Define and give a personal example of the three levels of information on which people make predictions about others. • How does stereotyping interfere with effective communication? • Why is communication important in developing relationships? • How have technology or social networking websites influenced your communication with others? Facebook? Twitter? Texting? Email?

29. Digital Citizenship • Essential questions: • How do choices and actions, including those related to technology and media influence identity and impact character development? • How does interpersonal and intrapersonal communication affect perception of self and others? How do you portray yourself online?

30. “Growing Up Online” PBS Frontline Documentary • http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontline/kidsonline/ • Take Cornell Notes as you watch.

31. Discussion… “Growing Up Online” • How has online communication changed how we communicate face to face? • How has technology shaped education? • How has technology shaped teenage relationships? • Why is the internet the new “Wild West” ? • What does digital footprint mean? • What measures can we take to protect ourselves in an online community?

32. Homework (might be your toughest assignment yet) • Over the long weekend, you need to DISCONNECT from technology communications for one day. This means no internet, no texting, no facebook, etc) for one day. • Write a one-paragraph reflection highlighting how this went. Was it difficult? Easy? Did you feel “lost”? Did it force you to use other communication mediums? Be specific in your reflective response! • Study your Inter/Intra Personal Communication notes for a quiz next Wednesday! • Have a great, long weekend!!!