Self Esteem What is it? How do you get it? Why do you need it? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lnOSZX4tpOA
Goal • Students will be able to list ways to improve self esteem • Students will understand the importance of self esteem and decision making • Students will understand the importance of their positive actions affecting others self esteem.
Compliments • Compliments/Impressions
Toot Your Horn-Identify your Faults • Complete the personal inventory • Share with a neighbor
Self-Esteem Beach Ball • A beach ball is an example of a healthy self-esteem that is resilient and able to bounce • back. What do you think might happen if obstacles or situations are allowed to lower • self-esteem? • When the ball was full of air and was pushed on, what happened? • When it was full of air and dropped on the floor, what happened? • After air was let out of the ball, what happened when it was pushed on? • What about when it was dropped on the floor with less air in it? • What are some things that can lower self-esteem? • Can people lower your self-esteem? How? • Is low self-esteem permanent? Why or why not? • Is our self-esteem the same all the time? Why? • How can you raise your self-esteem? • Can other people help raise your self-esteem?
Define what is self esteem (Self Esteem 1 Handout) • Get into groups of 4 or 5 students • Use a large sheet provided by me to define what your group think SE is. • Why do you need self esteem?
Self Esteem Collage • Words/Images/Symbols that represent your life • Should represent who you are • Should define what self esteem means to you • How you feel about yourself (only strengths) • Use personal inventory for ideas
What is self-esteem? • SELF ESTEEM IS HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT YOURSELF!
Why do we need self esteem? • People with high self-esteem are realistic about their strengths and weaknesses and are able to set goals and work toward them with optimism and humor. They also feel competent in areas they consider important and do not take other people’s negative impressions of them too seriously. Less likely to get involved in high risk behaviors.
Benefits of Self Esteem • Proud of yourself, abilities, skills, and accomplishments • Confidence to confront and overcome challenges • Confidence to try new things
Low Self Esteem • People with low self-esteem have a hard time honestly evaluating their strengths and weaknesses and often have an unrealistic, overall negative impression of themselves. They take other people’s opinions of their strengths and weaknesses more seriously than they should. Also, they do not feel competent in areas they consider important. More likely to get involved in high risk behaviors.
Consequences of low self esteem • Depression • Anxiety • Stress • Lack of confidence or interest in things, not involved
How can you improve your self esteem • Focus on positive aspects about yourself • Choose friends who value and respect you • Try new activities to discover you talents • Exercise! • Volunteer your time! • Just be yourself, express your individuality. Don’t try to be someone else!
How can I build my self esteem? • Good mental and emotional health helps you develop healthy self-esteem. • Sense of belonging (example) • Sense of purpose • Positive outlook • Self-sufficiency • Resiliency- the ability to adapt effectively and recover from disappointment, difficulty, or crisis
Improve Self-Esteem • Choose friends who value, respect and feel confident about you • Focus on the positive aspects about yourself • Avoid negative self-talk • Work towards accomplishments rather than perfection • Consider mistakes learning opportunities • Try new activities to discover new talents
Continued • Write down your goals • Exercise regularly • Volunteer • Accept things you cannot change, focus energy on changing things you can
How you can improve others self esteem. • Provide a generous compliment • New haircut, clothes, etc. • Perform a random act of kindness • Hold the door for someone… Write a letter… • Make someone feel accepted • New students
Write down a goal you have: • Get married