1. Impact of Low Self-Esteem Presented by: James J. Messina, Ph.D.

2. What is Low Self-Esteem? • Insecurity • Closed to Others • Poor Decision Maker • Anxious • Fear of Intimacy • Not able to have fun • Black and White Thinker • Poor Anger Control • High Need for Approval • Lots of Guilt • Lots of Depression

3. What is Healthy Self-Esteem? • Sense of Productivity • Sense of Autonomy • Sense of Uniqueness • Altruistic • Leadership Ability • Sense of Competence • Self-Confidence • Healthy Self-Concept • Independent Thinker • Self-Accepting & Loving • Good Decision Maker

4. What Contributes to Low Self-Esteem • Dysfunctional Environments • Bad relationships • Codependent • Has Disability • Non -supportive school, work • Abused • Conditional acceptance and love

5. What causes Dysfunction? • Things more important than people • Mental illness • Major Losses • Abuse • Rigid feelings • Ice Boxes • Addiction • Disability • Big Pay Off

6. Looking -Good • Hero • High Achiever • Over-responsible • Driven • Approval Seeker • Looks together • Goal: Denial of Problems

7. Acting Out • Scapegoat • Irresponsible • Trouble-Maker • Rebellious • Poor - Under Achiever • Anti-authority • Self-destructive • Caustic • Goal: Divert focus

8. Pulling In • Invisible • Loner • Bookish • Quiet - Recluse • Hard to know • Aloof • Avoid problems • Protect self -overweight • Goal: withdraws to survive

9. ENTERTAINER • Clown • Mascot • Comic Relief • Immature • Hyperactive • Not taken seriously • Distracter • Attention getting • Talks a lot • Goal: Divert attention

10. Troubled Person • Irresponsible • Addict • Unstable • Blame others • Out of control • Broken • Con artist • Denial of problems • Problem for others • Goal: Self-serving

11. Enabling • Protect & Save others • Over-responsible • Co-dependent • Nagger • Covers up • Controlling • Demanding • Goal: get troubled people to change

12. Rescuing • Helper • Motivated • Victimized • Stuck • Irrational Loyalty • Burdened-down • Self-Negated • Unassertive • Goal: reduce tension, hurt & pain

13. People Pleasing • Easily liked • Placator • Always smiling • Outgoing • Friendly • Courteous • Generous • Fits in • Works hard to please • Goal: get approval

14. Non-Feeling • Stoic • Nothing bothers • Intense thinker • Low-Key • Steady even-tempered • No strong feelings • Black & White • Goal: deny feelings to survive

15. Impact of Low Self-Esteem

16. Healthy Adult Self-Esteem

17. Self-Esteem Recovery Model