How Good People Make Tough Choices: Resolving the Dilemmas of Ethical Living . By: Rushworth M. Kidder. Forming Stage. What is the forming stage??? All about getting to know your team members Exploration and focusing on similarities/differences First impressions are important
How Good People Make Tough Choices: Resolving the Dilemmas of Ethical Living
By: Rushworth M. Kidder
Forming Stage What is the forming stage??? All about getting to know your team members Exploration and focusing on similarities/differences First impressions are important Open communication is a must Starting out… Lower productivity may be a concern Issues of leadership, trust, and involvement may occur
Developing a Code of Ethics As stated in the book, it is very important for you and your teammates to each create a list of values starting out, and compare them to see how they are alike and differ from each other. Afterwards, come up with a group code of ethics that each team member agrees on.
Why is a Code of Ethics Important? When tough choices come about, it’s easier to make decisions on what to do Serves as a shared reference point Helps team members dismiss issues that might later grow into dilemmas, or bigger issues Having these shared values gives us the best opportunity for creating consensus
Examples of Common Values Groups May Share Fairness Honesty Truthful Trustworthy Always seek Improvement Accept personal responsibility Cooperative/Constructive in work Reliable in completing assignments
How to Make your Code of Ethics Most Effective Bring into focus a core of moral values that is consistent and easily memorized Make your rules/guidelines very clear from one day Focus on moral values
Difference Between Values and Tactics Values- Things that matter to you in life, that you want your team or organization to stand for Tactics- The specific actions you take to follow though plans and achieve your goal It is much easier to agree on the level of values, than on the level of tactics
The really tough choices usually don’t center around choices or right vs. wrong, but rather right vs. right. Once group members have created a list of common core values, there are four paradigms (listed below) in which to classify situations in, to order to make the best decision possible. Truth vs. Loyalty Individual vs. Community Short-term vs. Long-term Justice vs. Mercy
Three Basic Principles to Help Solve Dilemmas End’s Based Thinking- Do whatever produces the greatest good for the greatest number of people Ruled-Based Thinking- Follow the principle in a situation that you would want everyone else to follow Care-Based Thinking- Do unto others what you would like them to do to you
Vision for the Future We all strive for the best in our future, even though we may not always agree on ways of getting there Leadership is all about developing a plan for the future, and having shared values in your team can help reaching the top seem less stressful
The 85% Solution
How Personal Accountability Guarantees Success
Responsibility “Responsibility is not something you do; it’s a way of thinking and a way of being.
Taking Control Planet What Should Be? Take control of your actions and don’t blame circumstances on your failure. Live on Planet What Is? Planet Guilt Finger pointing and blaming Instead take responsibility of your choices and you won’t fail.
Victimizing Don’t blame other peoples actions for the things YOU are not doing Don’t blame not succeeding on just being lazy. Many people don’t move up in a work force because THEY in fact don’t want the extra work. Own your decisions
85 – 100% Responsibility When starting anything you must take all the responsibility on yourself. That means failure or success By taking the responsibility and not letting other take it you will always succeed. If everyone thinks everyone else will pick up the slack the end result will be a failure. Each team member must be equally 100 percent responsible for the success.
Self-Empowerment “Take the actions and take the risks that you need to in order to ensure that you achieve the results you desire.”
Empowerment is the act of living Realize that my results are the consequences of my choices. If it is to be, it’s up to me. Step out of my comfort zone. Keep focused.
Define your success The best way to get focus in your life Write down what success mean to you Put it on paper Work on it Change it Look at it every day
Self-Empowerment Strategies 1. Lighten up Listen to positive messages Visualize a good day rather than a bad day 2. What’s done is done Don’t hold a grudge Move past the past and get on with your life 3. Me, Me, Me Make your achievement noticeable not only to others but also to yourself
Self-Empowerment Strategies cont. 4. Say No If you don’t have time don’t agree to do something 5. Schedule Conservatively Put your to-do on a time sheet and don’t double book your hours 6. Make an Appointment Talk to people about why you have to say no 7. I’m okay; are you okay? Notice your mood swings and how that may effect other people
Self-Empowerment Strategies cont. 8. Have a “you-ectomy” Use the word I instead of you Taking responsibly to putting blame 9. The magic of “and” Instead of using a negative “but” use a positive “and” 10. Get off the gossip-go-round Take control of your actions instead of talking about what other people are doing
Accountability “Accountable people put a ‘who’ with every ‘what’.”
Being Accountable Happens after all is said and done Not blaming others for your bad choices Standing up even if you can get away with what you did Dealing with the consequences after you have made your choices
Bringing it all together In order to be empowered you need to be responsible In order to be responsible you need to own your decisions fully In order to own your choices you need to be clear about what you’re choosing. By doing all these things you are the 100% solution.
The Time Trap
Understanding how Forming can be apart of Time Management
Problems Without Time Management I just don’t have enough time? It’s 8:00pm already? Where did all the time go? There’s just not enough time in a day? It’s more fun when everything isn’t planned out. I’m always stressed out and I don’t know why?
Take Control Don’t let time control you. There is plenty of time during the day to accomplish everything. Set Long-Term Goals. Set Short-Term Goals to accomplish the long-term goals. Weekly Goals need to be set to accomplish the short-term goals. Make daily goals to help accomplish the weekly goals.
Have Priority’s Everything isn’t on the same priority. What’s most important to get done. Make a table with your objectives. This will help with falling off task and make sure things are completed in the right order.
Time Log This will take time that I could use to do something else. When making a table for your objectives write down how long it takes to finish. Make sure you write down all that you do even if its not on your log. This will show you were some of your lost time goes without you realizing it.
Time Wasters Internet Surfing Attempting too much Phone Calls Procrastination Socializing Poor Communication Self Discipline
Live Life Enjoy the now stress free world Steps will take time to get used too After practice you will see a big difference
The Oz PrincipleRoger Conners, Tom Smith and Craig Hickman
Accountability: Without it, no person or business can succeed. Most people today in business when confronted with poor performance begin to make up excuses as to why their work isn’t finished on time or why it is unsatisfactory. Business cultures with failed accountability have weakened the business character, stressing ease over difficulty and appearance over substance. In the long run if this isn’t fixed, an organization can fall so far behind that it can never fully recover from it’s damaged morale and lack of trust.
Steps to Accountability See it: acknowledging the full reality of a situation. Own it: accepting responsibility for the experiences you create for yourself and others. Solve it: changing reality by finding solutions to your problems. Do it: making the commitment to follow through with the solutions you have come up with.
Victimization Even the most successful people and organizations can fall prey to the cycle of victimization. It takes the accountable person in business to climb the steps back Above the line and out of the Blame Game.
Six Common Stages of the Victim Cycle Ignore and Deny “It’s not my job” Finger-Pointing Confusion Cover Your Tail Wait and See Victims never accomplish anything unless they take control of their own futures.
Victim Cycle Ignore and Deny: People pretend not to know that there is a problem, or choose to deny that there is a problem altogether “It’s not my job”: The tired excuse that people use when that don’t want to help others Finger-Pointing: Denying their own responsibility for poor results and seek to shift the blame to others.
Victim Cycle Confusion: If they don’t understand what they are supposed to do then they shouldn’t have to do it, right? Wrong. Cover Your Tail: Coming up with stories as to why they shouldn’t be blamed for something that might go wrong. Wait and See: People wait and see if things will get better, this is where they get stuck in the cycle.
How to recognize being Below The Line You fail to confront the toughest issues you face. You find yourself making excuses for everything. You find yourself in a defensive mode. You find yourself blaming others and pointing fingers.
Staying Above The Line Ask for feedback Readily acknowledge reality Always commit yourself 100% to what you are doing Recognize when you are dropping Below The Line and act quickly to avoid the traps of the victim cycle
Everyone isn’t perfect, so people and organizations are going to fall Below The Line from time to time. But it takes a responsible and accountable person to admit their mistakes and take the steps to move Above The Line.
The Professional: Defining the New Standard of Excellence at Workby: SubrotoBagchi
Begin Professional Taking Charge Being Comfortable Asking for Help Looking Beyond Money Being Self-observant Doing More by Doing Less The To-do list Power of Vision Commitment
Taking Charge Not necessary the leaders but possessing the ability to take control of any situation and control the environment is vital to being a well-rounded professional Power is not some type of material that you can seize, like piece of land. Power is never seized. It is always generated from within.
Being Comfortable A Self-aware professional is conscious of gaps in his knowledge of particular subjects. This gap may never be bridged But understanding and comfort with this fact compels us to feel good when asking for advice on certain subjects
Looking Beyond Money Necessary to feel comfortable moving forward in todays society However hard, it should not be the primary purpose Boredom Loss of purpose Love what your doing Give back to your profession by spending time with colleagues who just joined the organization and by writing how-to articles based on your experiences
Being Self-observant Exercise Everyone close your eyes Observe everything you hear
Doing More by Doing Less Just cause your doing more doesn’t mean its has more value Prioritizes based on where you can make the biggest impact Cut down on pointless distractions Different in everyone's case
The To-do list Set goals Big goals Day-to-day goals Gives a sense of purpose and prioritization
The Power of Vision Having a shared vision Stand beside it Act upon it
Commit to Commitments Apply to even small task Could lose respect if lacking Example Beneficial in being taken serious Without commitment you can not accomplish your vision